I’ve decided to do the bi-lateral mastectomy. I don’t want to deal with this crap again in the future. So now we are just waiting for our surgeon and plastics guy to pick a date that works with both of their schedules. In the meantime, we’re nesting. You know how people who are just about to have a baby go on a babymoon and get the house ready? Well, that’s exactly what we’re doing, but for Cancer!
We’ve busied ourselves with the realities of Cancer. There is a lot of paperwork and research to be done! We have to figure out our insurance and my disability leave. We have to find a medical oncologist we like in the city (We’ve decided that it’s crazy to drive 2 hours roundtrip down to PAMF for chemo — so I’m going to do that part here in the city, but do my surgery and reconstruction down in Palo Alto). We have to figure out how and where I get my hands on edibles (my friends who have already walked this path tell me that medical maryjane saved them during chemo). We have to figure out when our parents will fly in to help out, and for how long. We have to decide if we break our cardinal rule of “no TV in the bedroom” and go out and buy a cancer TV for the days that I inevitably won’t be able to get out of bed.
Also on the list, is getting in touch with local TNBC (Triple negative Breast Cancer) survivors. I want to learn and truly comprehend what the next 8 months are going to look like for me. I’m one of those people who can handle things IF I know what to expect and mentally prepare for it. So I want to hear the good, the bad and the very ugly right now. How sick will I really feel? What does “really achey” actually mean? Do I need a port? When will my hair fall out? etc, etc.
Like any good nester before us, we also want to go on a cancermoon! I’m thinking Hawaii — I think I’ve earned it! And of course — we MUST throw a “Kick Cancer to the Curb” party. I mean, goes without saying, right?